Nikolas' Birth Story

Wow, it's been a long time since I last blogged. So much has changed. We are now officially in NY. We arrived mid June and have settled into our new life here. What a change from country to city, especially for the kids. They were infatuated with all the sounds of the city. We've taken a few trips into Manhattan and honestly, they could ride the Staten Island ferry and subways all day and be happy little clams. It's great to finally be here and have the Virginia chapter of our life closed. It seemed like forever that we were waiting to leave. I miss a lot of the people there especially my close friends. But as with all military PCS's, you just adapt and luckily have friends all over to visit. Social media is such a great way to still keep in touch with everyone!

With that being said, another big change is upon our household, my "baby boy" is turning 2! I cannot believe it. Seriously. Just feels like yesterday that I found out I was pregnant with him. I'm saddened that he will no longer be a baby. He's getting so big and talking and doing so much everyday. He still is my snuggle buddy and requires "mommy" to do everything for him. It's just a weird feeling that he's so grown now. Yes I know 2 isn't "too grown" but he's not baby status anymore. He's potty trained, has a hysterical personality and learning so much everyday. He loves his big sister, pirates and playing with cars, trucks and the occasional dress up costume.

The hubs and I were reflecting on his birth & how different both of our kids births were. The second time around I was more relaxed and even at times, enjoyed myself. I was in control and felt it too. I wanted to share this life changing moment with you. Every mother has their own story and I personally love hearing them all.

 

So, here I go:

July 19th 2011, I woke up and had a feeling that might be the day. Nikolas had significantly dropped, so much so, I texted my bestie and she agreed. We went to a fellow friends daughters party and everyone said, wow! He will be born soon. I had contractions from 34 weeks on and even spent a day in the hospital with the possibility of being medivac'd to a hospital across the bay. However, that day, I didn't have more than the normal Braxton hicks. 

We went home and put C to bed. Took a shower and got myself a bowl of ice cream. Not 10 mins later, I started having contractions; nothing too bad but enough to make me wonder. Within 20 mins, I was having severe contractions. Keith called the doctor, and he informed us to come to the hospital. After calling the doctor, he called our friends, who are basically family, and they came right over and A spent the night with C. The 25 min ride to the hospital never felt so long...

I swore that he was going to make his debut in the car. C was born in less than 8 hours, so I thought he would come faster. The admitted me into the hospital and was officially going to have a baby. We were making our guesses on his arrival but then, he wanted to slow things down. Like WAAAAAYYYY down. The night progressed and I slowly did too. Morning came and I was about 5 cm. I breathed throughout the process and felt all his little body moving into position. It was such an experience. However, I was exhausted.

Around noon, I felt my body progress faster and harder. I sort of felt like I went into another place. Like I floated above my body and knew that I was nearing the end. It was becoming more painful and exhausting. Hubs was great and never left my side. About 230pm, my doctor came back in and asked me again if I wante any relief. Throughout all those hours, I said no, but at this moment, I said please. Not 10mins after recieving medication, I said, I need to push. Before I even started labor, months prior to his birth, I knew I wanted to watch an assist in his birth. It was something I felt compelled to do. After a quick check, my doctor said to start pushing. I was seriously so calm. Didn't know where this came from but I was in the zone. Pain medication didn't work and even though I felt everything, I also felt bliss. I watched as I pushed my sons head out and assisted in grabbing his head and body as well. At 3:15pm on July 20th 2011, Nikolas Eric Nelson was born after 21 hours of labor. 

He was immediately put on my chest crying and as soon as I started to talk to him, he stopped crying an we stared at each other. Then I put him to nurse and like a champ, latched on beautifully. I was in heaven. I loved him and our new family so much. I couldn't stop looking at this wonderful creation we made.

Watching C meet him for the first time was incredible. She shared her trains, which was a feat to say the least, and loved him so much. 

Thinking about this makes me feel like time has zipped by. But also feels like he has always been here. God has blessed me with 2 beautiful children. 

Nikolas right at birth!

My big boy

Today. Sure loves his momma. I sure love my little boy.

Saying see you later and not goodbye

Just over a week and we will be leaving to our new home in New York. Even with this short time frame, this still all feels very surreal to me. I sit in my house, that definitely doesn't look like we are moving, and still can't believe we are leaving. I'm thankful for the packers and movers doing all the grunt work of our latest move but I think it makes it harder to visualize its going to happen. 

Moving away is sort of bittersweet. Of course I am excited to start a new adventure in a huge city. See all that the NYC area has to offer. However, it's so hard to say goodbye to friends that I have grown so close to. These last 4 years I have met some incredible people. Made friendships and connections with them and that's not easy to walk away from. It even harder to say goodbye to my children's friends. I've watched some of her friends grow up along side of her. C can make me feel terribly guilty saying how much she will miss her friends. Such is life as a military child. I hope these experiences will make them rounded as they grow.

So I have vowed to not say goodbye. Instead it's a see you soon...see you later, alligator. In awhile, crocodile. 

Stop all the hate

I have been having a serious writing block. I haven't been able to think about what to write in forever! If I get an idea, I slowly stop and forget what it was I had to say about...I DO have a lot on my mind lately. We have about 2 weeks left here in our home of 4 years in VA. I cannot believe how quickly that time flew by. I am excited about the new adventure for our family and all that our new home has to offer in NYC. So, I guess I can cut myself a bit of slack with my writing endeavours.

With that being said, I did come across something today that inspired me to write. I stumbled across this article on Yahoo about a Papa John's pizza delivery driver leaving an extremely racist message on this unexpecting man's voicemail. He was the one who ordered the pizza and the driver was the one who delivered it. This article sparked curiosity in me and made want to hear what was said. I immediately regretted it. How despicable. I cannot believe that there are people in this world who think like that ignorant man.

We are raising our children to love everyone regardless of what they look like, believe in, wear, etc. Why can't we all just get along? Love and respect each other no matter what we look like!! Don't we all bleed red? Don't we all have hearts and love and feel things, regardless?

One of my best friends that I have been friends with since I was 8 is black. Never once have I looked at her as my "black" friend. Shes my friend; beautiful, smart and kind hearted. Her family treated me like I was one of their own and visa versa.  I consider her my sister.

Can't we all be colorblind? Love people for who they are and not what the color of their skin is? Or their religion is? This country is a melting pot for so many different cultures, faiths, etc. We can learn so much from each other if we just put down our biases and learn to accept each other. 

I can only hope for a brighter future and be strong knowing that my husband and I will raise our family to embrace each other regardless of our differences. Love one another like He did.

My bestie and I in the 1990s....

Forgiveness

Have you ever listened to a song and have it make you rethink a lot of your life? Give you more than just food for thought? Or make you say, hmmm...

I should start off with where I was first moved by a song. Last August, I attended the MOPS, Mothers of Preschoolers conference in Texas. I was there introduced to an artist named Matthew West. He performed one of the evenings we were there. Before this night, I'd never really heard of him so I was interested in hearing him. He sang a song from his upcoming album called Forgiveness. From the moment I heard this song, I felt something burning inside of me.

For many years, I have been harbouring some resentment, anger and sadness to certain people and situations in my life. For years, it felt like an ugly backpack on my back and carrying this awful load was exhausting. Everytime I felt as if I was free from these burdens, I'd remember what occurred and what was taken and like a rainfall over me, it quickly returned. I hated it.

For years, I held on to the pain that my father and his alcoholism caused me. I longed for the father I knew he could be and grieved for the childhood I lost out on. Many times I blamed myself for his behavior and took on a lot of the abuse to shelter my younger sister. I needed to be strong for her so she didn't have to feel the pain I experienced. Then there were the years we didn't speak. My father, unaware of my life, marriage and even birth of my daughter because of his habits. Even through all that, I wanted my father in my life.

Secondly there is someone else from my teenaged years that took something that I could never get back. He came and went like the blow of the breeze and made me different; changed the core of who I was. I will not go into much detail because its not needed and quite frankly, I don't want to highlight him because he doesn't deserve it.

These burdens, although weren't always on the fore front of my mind, still were on my heart. Then I heard in the song, "show me how to love the unloveable". They were definitely unloveable. "It's hardest thing to give away, the last thing on your mind today and it always goes to those who don't deserve it". Yes I will agree with that wholeheartedly. 100%. It was as if Matthew West was signing this song directly to me in a room of hundreds of women. Like no one else was there and he was saying, Katie, forgiveness is what you need to be set free.

This year, I did that. I made it my mission in some sorts. I forgave my Dad. It was the hardest and easiest thing to do. I cannot fix his addiction but I can forgive him for it. Forgiveness has made us closer and have an understanding for him. I also, in my heart, forgave the other person. Forgiveness doesn't mean I forget, but means I let it go.

I will love the unloveable; I will reach the unreachable; I will do the impossible, forgiveness.

I have never felt more free. I am no longer carrying that backpack. I am a better friend, wife, sister, daughter and mother because of it. Freeing yourself of negativity opens your eyes to all the beauty that this world has to offer. It's quite amazing..

Do you tell your real age?

A few days ago, I read this article on babble.com that got me thinking. It was called, Do You Tell Your Real Age? It got me thinking and my "hamster wheel" in my head going as well. This woman had 2 young children, 4 and 1, a business and a husband. She was also 23. She didn't like to tell her real age because people would assume things, based off that number. Her business was thriving and her beautiful home was too but still that was her one insecurity....her "young" age.

Got me thinking that like her, I am insecure about my age as well. I am 27. Got married at 21. Had my first child at 23, second by 25. By numbers standards, I am young, however, I do not feel my age. I have lived in 2 different countries, 2 (almost 3) different states and traveled a lot. Finished college and have a wonderful home, in which I take care of. Still, for whatever reason, my biggest thing that I am insecure about is my age. <There I said it...>

I often think about how people portray me when I am out with my children. (I will make a side note that I usually do not care about what people think of me, but like I said, this is my "thing") When they're having a break down or misbehaving, I feel like people see my age, as weird as that sounds. Oh that poor young girl, doesn't have the skills because she is so young. I know this is all in my head, but I cannot help it. I have also gotten the, ooh "you're so young to be a mom" thing too and that drives me bonkers. As if, because I am young, I am incapable of making the right decisions based upon my own intelligence. People often like to put their two sense in and I often cannot find the polite words to say, thanks but not thanks. 

I am not sure why that's my insecurity. Something that I struggle with personally and hopefully one day will overcome. I'm usually a pretty confident person, so this strikes myself, even as odd. With that being said, I also needed to announce this because I thought maybe others are like myself out there who struggle with this. We chose to be young parents. We wanted to be young with our kids and enjoy ourselves afterwards. There is nothing wrong with that, but sometimes its a struggle that I find hard to overcome. I am getting more comfortable with it as I get older, but like all things, time will help overcome this.

Lost Inspiration...

My last posting was over a month ago. I have been feeling less than inspired to write lately and this is killing me! I enjoy writing; its like a release of tension for myself. I write whatever is going on inside my head, and lately, its been to overwhelmed to put anything down on here...

I am sure that I am not alone when I say this that motherhood is overwhelming in itself. I sometimes feel like I am just above the water, not enough to float comfortably, but enough to keep my head above water. I am at home with the kids all day and am their sole provider more than half of the time. A few weeks ago, I cracked. I will be honest and I cracked. I felt so overwhelmed with everything that I blew my top. I had been taking care of, yet again, two sick kids. My son, who already is very clingy and mommy attached, was at his peak of stalking me. I had been carrying him around in the Ergo carrier all day and I was tired. I couldn't pee alone, let alone sit and enjoy a cup of tea to myself without someone touching me. I didn't feel great myself, with allergies taking over my body, and desperately wanted/needed some assistance. My son, didn't let anyone near him with a 10foot plus pole, with the exception of me and I was going insane. I had a lot of my mind as well with our upcoming move to NY and all the details that surround that and some family issues and I was a my peak.

 I cried...like really, really cried. I was overwhelmed with everything that was going on and just wanted to crawl into a hole and sleep. Crying for me is somewhat of a release; like washing away the mess and starting fresh. I am someone who doesn't just openly express my emotions and usually waits to blow until they all come out like Niagara Falls. I felt better; like much better. I know that I shouldn't fester everything in, but its something that I have done since a child and still, to this day, haven't figured out how to control that.

I have now finally got some inspiration to write again after a little MIA on my behalf. I am excited to write again and also using this as an open, HEY! I am crazy too :) Like my kids, as much as I love them, make me blow too :) I know I am not alone, but for whatever reason, us moms don't like to talk about the hard stuff like this. As if it makes us weak or something. SO, here you go moms...I am not weak, I am strong but have my moments too!

Our Military Lifestyle

One of the most common questions I am asked is, "don't you get tired of moving?" I usually reply with a, "nope! I actually enjoy it" or "I knew what is was getting into when I married my husband."

I should probably backtrack a bit and explain why I get asked this...my husband is a proud member of the US Coast Guard. He's been active duty for over 10 years and has made it his career and he's great at it. His job provides us the stability of a steady income and healthcare among other things. The CG has also allowed us to see parts of the country that we wouldn't have seen otherwise. With this job comes sacrifices as well; we don't stay in one place for too long. Moving every 3-4 years and the heartache and strife that comes along with that. Being away from friends and family. The chance of being on a boat for extended periods of time away from us. Also long and strange hours at work. With that being said, I will continue on...

Earlier this year, we got our new assignment: Staten Island, NY. We were surprised and excited for this new adventure. In the last 5 years, we moved from Seattle, WA to rural VA and now, just outside manhattan! SI was on our list of places to go, but didn't give it much thought as we anticipated Washington DC. However, we couldn't be more excited to try this chapter of life out. There's so much to do and explore and culture to expose to the kids. I am stoked!

After marrying into the military, you find yourself thinking opposite of what the people who ask those questions in the first paragraph...how could people stay in one place for so long? Where I grew up, I know people who still live there and ask me 10 years ago, I would have thought I could live in the same place for years. Now, we look forward to starting a new chapter, meeting new people and exploring the US on the CG's dime. It's like a weird addiction of putting in where you'd like to go, and playing the waiting game to find out where. You get the call, hold your breath, heart racing and are told where you will spend the next few years of your life...to us it's an adrenaline rush. Weird I know.

The Book: 7 My New Life Challenge

I mean, you're probably thinking, does this girl every just chill out and not do something requires a "challenge"??! Yes, I just finished my Whole30 challenge and that did cleanse my physical body, but now I am attempting to challenge my spiritual self. A bunch of ladies here on the Shore are doing this new book study written by Jen Hatmaker. She is quite and amazing author and is very real about what she writes. Her connection with the Lord is awesome and reading about her 7 month journey from excess is quite revolutionary.

Brief overview of this book is that this society we live in is layered with excess. In this studies case, its excess: Food. Clothes. Spending. Media. Possessions. Waste. Stress. We are taking 30 days to rid out all the excess "things" in our life and widdling it down to 7 items. Lucky number 7. Its basically like a "decluttering" of your life as we know it.

Our group started this February 18th. The first 30 days are subjected around food. At first, I was VERY hesitant on starting something, yet again, that restricts my food intake. I was like, NO! Just did something like this, will modify it to make it fit ME! Then, like a hammer right to the temple of my head, I saw what I was really saying...ME ME ME...MEEEEEEEEEEEE! I will not do this cause I just did it. So, I changed my mind. I did make it a little more than 7 foods. I am eliminating these for 30 days....again:

1. Sugars of all kinds. Honey, stevia, natural whatever. ALL kinds. I do blame my blonde friend for getting me hooked on raw honey.
2. Processed junk
3. Anything that has names of "ingredients" I cannot pronounce.
4. COFFEE...I did just say that.
5. Chocolate. Oh.Man.

I do eat very healthy already. Doing the Whole30 (if you want to see what that was about, refer to my previous blogs) really gave me a reality check on what I was eating. I have kept those philosophies since finishing with a less rigid lifestyle. I don't eat grains. I eat healthy fats. But after reading the first chapter, I realized that I have over 200 things in my pantry. Holy excess, right? I am really trying to take that "need I have for those above foods" and turn it into a "need I have for the big guy upstairs".

I will not be doing this alone. My best friend here on the shore is my go-to person when I want coffee or something that I don't want. She is also blogging about her experience and a wonderful writer, so check her out here.

SO...here I go, again...Praying that this helps me open my eyes to all that is around me. Rely on Him to make it through the struggles. I already knew how blessed I was, but this challenge is really helping me open my eyes to all that I have. To be so lucky to have options for dinner and fresh fruits and veggies in my fridge. Clean water coming out of the taps and the vast options I have to eat at my house. Just some food for thought....

Why I love my husband.

I know that most of the time, I usually write about my children. I mean, they're whom I spend the majority of the day with and let's be real, they say and do some hilarious things. So, it makes sense to write a lot about them. However, there also is someone else who is very important in my life, my awesome hubs, Keith.

I was very lucky to have met my soulmate at a young age. I went through a few duds and life lessons and like a breath of fresh air, in walks this attractive, self confident man who turned my life around for the better. He showed me what a real man should be. How a woman should be treated and how a healthy relationship functions. Just over a year of dating, we were engaged and 4 months later, we were husband and wife.

Our first year of marriage was not like what you hear. It wasn't super hard but we did have our/my (lets be real, mostly me) challenges living with and learning the ins and outs of a relationship. (And learning to deal with the mans obsessive sports watching) I didn't grow up seeing a lot of healthy relationships. Actually, I can only think of a few that I would even think of as role models. So, a lot of this first year was trial and error. It was a great year though.

Keith and I have a great friendship. We are best friends and I love to spend time with him. We also are great communicators. Talk when we need to express something and listen as well. I love that about my husband because I do A LOT of talking. Outsiders would see our marriage and question some of the ways we are. I love to take care of my hubs. Call me old fashioned but I love to cook him dinner, make sure the house is tidy when he comes home and make him special treats. I also thank him for things. Most of the time he says, why are you thanking me, but I just do it cause I love him. I'm return, he thanks me when I do things for him. Most of all, we respect each other.

As we approach our 6th year of marriage and soon our 3rd state of residence, I still to this day, love him just as much as I did the day I laid eyes on him those short 7 years ago. We have been through so much together and yet, we have so much more to experience. I still get excited for him to come home and nothing makes me love him more than seeing him love our 2 beautiful children.

I hope that everyone finds their soulmate in life. Someone who will ride with you through the hard times and fun times and be there for you unconditionally. Someone who still gives you butterflies in your tummy thinking of them.

The Winter Blues

I haven't had a chance to blog lately, which has been KILLING me! This winter cold and flu season has been a rough one on my family. I swear for 2 weeks, the norovirus and general cold reeked havoc over my family.

First it was that horrible stomach bug. Took over my daughter first, then my son then took my husband out of commission. I hate seeing them all sick like that. I was rendered helpless while they were so sick and weak. I would have traded any of their sicknesses so they wouldn't had to experience that.

Once they finally recovered from that, a cold bug possessed them. I couldn't believe it! Their poor recovering bodies had to deal with congestion, cough and sore throats. I again, helped as much as I could providing soup, medicine, humidifiers and love to make them feel better. They only had to deal with this for a few days, but still...

Love sure is a powerful thing. I mean, when else would I get up throughout the night to be barfed on repeatedly and snuggle with said barfy person. Then offer up our bed to sleep in cause everyone knows sleeping in Mommy's bed makes all your ailments disappear. Love also makes you feel physical pain watching those you love so much in pain. I teared up watching all three of them crying to get better. It just wasn't fair.

Now, a few weeks later and a few crazy days of airing out my home and psychotically Lysol'ing my home, we are free of those awful germs. I wouldn't wish the Norovirus on my worst enemy. It's awful. Period.

Now all we need is a bit warmer weather to venture back outdoors. This time of the year is my least favorite. I miss the fresh air, sunshine and most importantly, letting my pirates be outside and playing!

Come on Mr. Groundhog...hope you're right!

Whole30 Challenge Completed!

So, I DID IT! I completed the whole30 challenge! It was not an easy feat at all. I think that this was, hands down, the hardest thing I've had to do in the mear 27 years on this earth. I didn't realize that everything basically had sugar in it. I mean, wow...ketchup, chicken broth, sauces, etc. I became somewhat of a detective when I was purchasing all my foods. Not such a bad thing, but definitely something that I had to get used to. I also didn't ever realize how many additives were in foods as well. This was an eye opener.

First off, I did this whole "project" for something that I could say I accomplished on my own. As a military wife and mother, "my" accomplishments are muddled with my husband's or my children's. It is now really nice to say that me, myself and I did this without cheating and stuck to this!

After finishing this, I can say I have noticed quite a bit of changes in myself:

• First off, I started this challenged weighing in a 163 (I am being very honest...can't believe I am putting this on here). I will add here beforehand, that I didn't do this lose weight. Today, I weighed myself at 156...something I haven't been in awhile. That in itself is a major boost for my ego.
• Clearer skin! I have always had acne since I was 12. Its something that I have just gotten used to this since its been a long time. However, since doing this challenge, I have had clearer and smoother skin. That is awesome for me!
• I now sleep like a rock! I know that's probably due to me exercising 6 days a week, but still...
• Strengthened immunity!! My husband and 2 kids had that awful norovirus 10 days ago and I somehow managed to bypass that AWFUL bug!
• NO headaches. I can say that with the utmost confidence that I haven't had a headache in 20 days. This is coming from someone who suffers from debilitating migraines and is decommissioned for hours to suffer this awful things. I love this part so much.
• Better digestion...do I really need to explain this one?
• Energy! Something that I desperately need with 2 kids. I feel energized from my foods now. I rarely need an afternoon pick me up or nap.
• Cravings for sweets (if you know me, thats a love of mine) pretty much gone. I now crave cashew butter (yes you see that right...I am obsessed with that), carrots and yummy almonds!!

I made some delicious meals such as Sweet Potato Latkes, Flank Steak and Pineapple Salsa, Grilled Chicken with "rice" and veggies & Stir fry with veggies. These are simple and easy and very healthy!


Like I have said before, this is not for everyone, however, why wouldn't you want to try this out even just given my small results?! I've read other peoples amazing transformations of diseases cured like fibromyalgia, arthritis and allergies. Stand up and change your life!

I will say, I am quite nervous about introducing some foods back into my diet. I will say, some may never return. I am certain that grains along with larger amounts of dairy were causing my headaches. I am ok never munching on grains again, if I don't have to deal with headaches. Slow and steady will be how I am approaching this...no need to rush. In fact, I am pretty sure I will be eating what I had for lunch today, tomorrow.

With that being said, I WILL be cracking open a celebratory bottle of wine tomorrow. I deserve it. Over a month without any alcohol and I am sure I will be a cheap date. Hubs wont mind my celebration either...Also, planning on making some Paleo cookies for my friend who did this with me too. Maybe a square of dark chocolate too...mmmmm

Whole30 Week 3

Wow! I am over halfway done my Whole30 challenge. I can't believe it! Its almost done. I feel very strong that I overcame all the obstacles to finish this. Its called a challenge for a reason. Its NOT easy. Its mentally, physically and mostly emotionally challenging. Its altering the way to see food. I can say that once I got over the humps, its progressively gotten easier, but it still comes with its daily challenges.

Days 15-18:

I got into a bit of a food slump. Got a bit bored with what I was eating, so I did need to change it up. I am the type of person who needs food change. I cannot eat the same stuff over and over. With that being said, I did make a batch of Well Fed's Chocolate Chili and ate that for lunch for this whole week. I said in my last blog that its amazing and I will repeat how delicious it is. I did try it with ground chicken and I must say, yummy. Also, I have noticed that during this challenge, that my typical "sweet tooth" has gone sort of spicy! I am looking for foods with spice. Not too much, just a bit of kick. My new latest cravings are for chili plantain chips. Yum. These are so delicious. They're crunchy, salty and spicy! Well worth it. I did also make some dehydrated apples to munch on, however, the kids ate the majority of them. Its a win/win I guess...they ate healthy and I have to make more.

Days 19-21:

I swear that EVERYTHING in my path was trying to tempt or derail me. I took my kiddos to ice cream after dance class and they SO wanted to share all their delicious yummy ice cream with me. The ice cream shop even had my favourite kinds...BUT I did good and didn't even have a bite. Actually, come to think about it, I didn't really "want" it, just the idea of having something at was forbidden was sort of daring. I also made cookies with the kids. Chocolate chip ones. The cookie dough was looking at me like, hey we know each other. Why have you left us. I laughed in the cookie doughs face and said, NO! Ooh the thoughts that go on inside my head.Then my daughter's BFF had her birthday party. Cake, cookies, all sorts of goodies. Again, I knew better and wasn't even tempted however, her mom did save me a piece of her homemade cake. Very sweet of her.

I honestly don't really want junk food. But I am going to come out and say it...laugh if you want, but all I really, really, REALLY want is a Diet Dr Pepper. I know, I am terrible. That's my one weakness. My mommy crack, as my bestie say, if you will. I doubt it will taste good, so maybe thats a good thing.

I am not sure how I will approach re-introducing some foods back into my diet. I know that since my body detoxed off of sugar, I have been headache/migraine free. I really think it might be the grains. Who knows...I do know that I hope to continue this on with a slight modification. I do enjoy cheese and yogurt and miss them a lot. Moderation will be the key. Still will keep on the Paleo lifestyle as it suits my family and I.

I think I might just have to have a celebratory small glass of wine after the next week...I will be a cheap date :)

The Cost of Healthy Eating

Even before I did this Whole30 challenge, I supplied my house with healthy snacks and food. We dined on healthier choiced foods like baked chicken, lean beef options, veggies etc. My husband, who is, well shall we say, not very health food minded, would eat the occasional salad for lunch. We ate alot of produce but since starting the challenge, I have really up'd the produce intake. It rarely lasts a week in this house.

I should start off by saying that I am a couponer. I love to find a good deal on things. I am known to scour the Internet coupon websites and print out various coupons for my grocery shopping days. I even sign up for the products mailing list in hopes that I get more money saving coupons. With that being said, why is it so hard to find coupons for more healthier options? Majority of the coupons out there are for pre-packaged, processed foods. Don't get me wrong, I have been known to cash in a $1.00 off coupon for toaster strudels (for my "big" kid). Why does produce or healthier rarely ever go on sale? I know what you're thinking, then go to a farm or CSA and get local produce for less money, but for some, that's not an option.

I am not trying to be preachy, but I have really investigated what was causing my health ailments these last 6 months and that's why I was led to try the Whole30. It was crazy to find that so many things that were in my foods were causing my debilitating migraines. Things or additives that I thought were healthy, rendered me a drone for days to deal with my migraines. After doing an elimination and figuring out what was causing them, I haven't had one for awhile now.

Since then, the cost of my groceries have sky-rocketed and it got me to wondering why. I do read labels when I purchase things. I will pay a bit more to avoid things. I wish these companies, that have these high quality products, would get people to want to purchase them with coupons. Coupons are the reason that most people try new things. It would open so many doors for people if they could try them.

Whole30 Week 2!

Yes, "technically" week 2 started Monday...however I have been diligently sticking to my plan of spending quality time with the kiddos and haven't had a chance to write about this last week! As they sit and munch on their breakfast, I thought what a perfect opportunity to write here! Of course, they're eating french toast sticks, so YAY for cool mom for me but boo for healthy mom. I justified it by making them whole wheat. Yes, not "technically" Paleo, but whatever. I am cool in their books today.

Week 2 was SO much easier than the 1st week. I have regained my energy, to only have it taken back away by starting the TurboFire workout series! A friend of mine let me borrow this workout system and dang, woah! its intense. I do really like it though. Its is a butt kicker, but I am up for the challenge. I am already feeling pretty "worked out".

Days 8-10:

This Whole30 approach by now is becoming second nature to me. Its pretty neat to watch myself go for the apple and almond butter over all the other stuff I could eat. I have virtually no cravings for junk food. I even tested myself and make chocolate chip cookies with the kids and didn't eat any. Wow that's good for me and cookie dough is my ultimate favourite. <---(my Canadian'ness :) Its really nice to have a support group to turn to when you need assistance too. I have a local friend who is doing right along side me as well as an online group of women whom I have never met and we check-in quite often. Makes it easier.

Days 11-14:

I made some yummy stuff these days to eat. I refuse to make 2 separate meals for myself and the family so I am changing up a few family favourites to eat. We LOVE coconut chicken here. So, instead of using coconut with cornflake crumbs like usual, I used unsweetened coconut and almond flour. Make a nice crust on the outside. Then pan seared them in coconut oil on the stove and cooked them in the oven for an additional 15 mins. Very good! Served with sweet potato fries and what a delicious meal. Also made Chocolate Chili. I recommend this to anyone because its amazing. Makes a lot too so you can freeze and save some too. Here is the recipe! Enjoy!!

Can't believe I am halfway through! I am so proud of myself. I have never done anything like this before, so for me, is incredibly rewarding. These last years I have been either pregnant or breastfeeding, so this would have been totally out of the question. Its a great sense of accomplishment for me.

Again, as I have said before, are you up for the challenge? I challenge you to life Whole30 for 30 days. You can do it.

Military Friendships

I have written about friendships before and how much they mean to my life and my children's life. I am thankful for all my friendships that have came into my life within the last 4 years. I feel that I have made some of the most concrete relationships these last 4 years,  more so than the other 23 years of my life. With that being said, reality setting about our pending move this summer and saying goodbye to our home and friends.

I knew when I married my husband, we would move every 3-4 years. That part actually excited me. I am always open to change and find new things enthralling. With that being said, I didn't realize how hard it would be to say goodbye to the people who shared my ups and downs with. I know, from personal experience, how difficult it is saying goodbye to people leaving. Staying in the place where you met and shared things with is emotionally difficult to do. However, I didn't think about the others who will have to say goodbye to my family when leave.

Why is it especially hard to fathom leaving when you have children? These kids have spent all this time together, some even from infants, and now you have to take their best friend away? I know, in my heart, they will create new friendships, but still is so hard to think about. My daughter is just developing a sweet girly friendship with J and it breaks my heart to not see that grow. Also, another one of her buddies has been friends with her since he was just weeks old.

I guess that is better to have loved and lossed than to never have loved at all. I know that these friendships, especially the deeply rooted ones, will be life long ones. Not just 1 time a year Christmas cards, but come up and visit for the weekend, friends.

Military lifestyle isn't for everyone. This is my 2nd move with my husband and I think that these bring us, as a family, even closer. I will miss those certain things about where I am now and the people who are in my life. The beauty of the military, is you will know people all over the country and world.

Week 1 of Whole30

Yes, I have been slacking on my blogging. Oops...my life has been so busy lately and I can hardly keep my eyes open at nighttime after the kids go to bed. Long live my blog and my newest post! :)

I completed my first week of the Whole30 Challenge. If you're wondering what in the world I am talking about, please check out my last entry here. Its a way to basically "detox" your body of processed foods. I thought that this would be very hard for me, but I found it to be not as bad. Our family (mostly me, except dinners) already follow a Paleo'ish lifestyle. That's where you eliminate all grains, legumes, sugars, etc, so that was kind of that half the battle there. I did have some "withdrawal" symptoms however because in the Whole30, you cannot even eat natural sugars like cane, maple syrup or stevia.

Day 1:

Today is relatively easy. I didn't have a hard time giving up much, but I did pack my diet with all sorts of yummy proteins and veggies. The only big shocker for me was giving up my coffee creamer! AWK. That was hard. I love love love flavoured coffee creamers. They're my rock in the morning but I was committed to this program, so I had black coffee. Wasn't my fav, but it works. Made an amazing Paleo Oatmeal from the Practical Paleo cookbook for breakfast. Its just so yummy! Had a headache throughout the day, but that's normal for me, sadly. I get them A LOT so I am not sure if I can attribute it to this.

Day 3:

Today was a CRAZY day. We got assigned to my husbands next unit in Staten Island, NY. I was kind of on a high from the news and felt amazing all day. I did notice that I didn't have any cravings yet, which was kind of neat! Since I am packing my day with good and whole foods, I wasn't starving all the time too. I will say that I REALLY wanted a Diet Dr. Pepper. That's my crutch right there and my hubs wasn't helping my drinking it in front of me saying how amazing it is. Pirate husband.

Day 4-5:

Alright, I will say these days were harder. I was exhausted. I was wiped all day long ---->think 1st trimester tired. I so badly wanted a Diet Dr.Pepper to pick me up. I resisted the temptation as hard as it was. Because of the exhaustion, I was grouchy. Needless to say, I probably wasn't the easiest person to deal with these days. Oops...All in the name of health! I also had a headache. I, again, am not sure if it was Whole30 related, but figured I'd mention it. I did make this amazing dinner tonight of flank steak with a pineapple salsa. Wow! Its so yummy. Even if you're not Paleo, try this puppy out. Its sooooo yummy! The kids, yes the kids, love it too!! Way better the next day for lunch as well. You will love this recipe!

Day 7:

So today, I feel great! I have my energy back and again feel pretty darn good. I went my weekly grocery shopping with the peanut C today and I even have her looking for all things sugar. She repeatedly said, sugar isn't good for you! Love it. I will make a side note, when you do this challenge, you are forced to read the ingredient labels. You will be shocked that sugar is in EVERYTHING. Bacon, chicken broth, spaghetti sauce & "health" foods. (I do make my own sauce since my bestie showed me how to make it)  Its crazy. Take a look at the labels of things next time and you shall see. Its hidden by using different names, so beware.

Now that the 1st week is over, I feel good, great even. I recommend doing this with a friend. It makes things easier and you can check in with them on how you're feeling. We even have an online group too and that does help. I'm seeing a change in my health and body. Its a good feeling that I can do something to help myself out and in turn, my family. I challenge you to try!

Whole30 Challenge!

So along with my few resolutions for this year, I am doing the Whole30 challenge along with a few friends of mine. I was introduced to this challenge by a friend and I loved the idea of it. Within the last 6 months, I have really changed the way I eat food. I am discovering what foods triggers my headaches and other GI problems. I have done a lot of research and done a 360 on my diet. By eliminating 85% of dairy products in my life, I have significantly cut down the amount of headaches/migraines I get.

Also, by eliminating a lot of processed foods, I have noticed a huge difference in my energy levels. I have more energy during the day, without caffeinating myself, and sleep so much better at night. I will say that this was not easy at first. I really detoxed for the first week I went off of processed foods and sugar. I had headaches, sweats, upset stomachs, etc. It was an insane feeling. But since then, I no longer crave the junk foods or processed foods I once loved so much. I even tried a dark chocolate square lately, which are my fav, and didn't get the same satisfaction that I once got. Amazing, huh??!

Now the sweetness of carrots, or tartness of an apple is what I crave. I would have never thought I'd say that!! I look forward to drinking my green smoothie in the morning with all sorts of goodness in it. Even the kiddos love them too.

I have implemented this movement into my families diet as well. Well, at least my kids. Husband, he's a bit more resistant. He does love the meals I cook however. I leave the snacking choices up to him and he will *eventually* come around. (as I look over at him munching on an ice cream drumstick)

So, I challenge you friends to check out the Whole30 movement. The link will take you to read all about it. It will NOT be easy, even for myself, but I think the benefits will be far greater than the initial struggles. There are plenty of groups out there for support and you can always lean on me for support as well. My friends and I are starting this January 7th. Join us! Or check out my upcoming blogs to see how my 30 days go and maybe I can inspire you to take the reins on your health.

Welcome 2013

Happy New Year! Welcome to a new year and a fresh start for everyone.

My husband and I are not typical "new years resolutions" type people. He kind of just makes something up, something that looks appealing to him for the moment and says that's what it is. That's my husband for you. As for myself, I don't usually pick what you'd classify as typical resolutions; weight loss, read more, etc. Its hard for myself to focus on something truly for me. I'd rather invest my time and energy into something that will help us as whole family unit. This year I have picked a few items to focus on:

Organization: With a big moving coming up within the next 6 months (NO we haven't found out yet, hopefully soon, but if you ask my bestie, its OR lol) this seems like the most logical one that I can focus on. I would like to think I am pretty organized for a household with 2 kids 4 and under. I love storage tubs, especially ones with drawers in them. I have all of C's school stuff in one of those as well as her art supplies. However, there is always room for improvement. I've seen so many cool things on Pinterest for this and if you'd like to check what I've found, here's my page link here. I've been slowly adding things and some might not be in the right category, hence the need for organization.

Quality Time: Lets be real. As a stay at home mom, I spend ALL day with my kiddos. I am not complaining, but sometimes I can lose focus on whats important when it comes to them. I am making it a goal to not just spend "time" together but quality time together. Even if its just for a few minutes, those minutes need to be focused on them. So easy to say, however, sometimes so hard to initiate. There are sometimes so many other things that I could be doing. However, I plan to make an effort to ignore the voice in my head about the laundry, dishes etc, and focus on my ever-growing children. I will not get this time back, so making it count is very important to me.

Playing Pirate ship on Christmas day...Love this picture and being in the moment

These are what's important to me. Along with attempting to get a date night with my loving husband of 5+years, but lets be real here, that probably wont happen anytime soon. *smile*

What are some of your resoultions? Are they for yourself, family or others? No shame if they're all just for you. We're human and sometimes we need to work on ourselves to help others.