We were out at Whole Foods today and my "almost 4" year old, daughter, C, told pretty much everyone that it was my birthday and that I am really "old". She asked her daddy how old I was going to be on my birthday. He told her, 27, and my daughter's face sunk to the ground in an AH moment and sighed and said, "wow, thats old!" So, in other words, I had my first of many, mommy is very old moments. I guess to an almost 4 year old, I am pretty stinkin' old. I mean, I am 23 years older than her.
Well, she told this adorable older gentleman, who helped us to the car with our groceries that it was my birthday. (On a side note, must have seen the SOS look on face as my daughter kept saying over and over again thats she was hungry and I NEVER FEED HER and my son throwing all of his snacks over their nice clean swept floors. Ah, motherhood, isn't it all we ever dreamed of??!) He looked a me and said, "Wow, aren't you young to have 2 youngin's". I said, no sir, just was lucky enough to meet the man of my dreams at a younger age and blessed with 2 children afterwards. He was sweet, so I allowed conversation to continue on. He replied, "well I figured you would have wanted to accomplish things before having children."............WAIT, did you really just say that??! I mean, thanks for helping me with my groceries, but so long. You knew me for 30 seconds, maybe and already concluding that I didn't accomplish things?! WOAH, thanks man, but goodbye.
I mean, this is not the first time I have heard this statement before. When Keith and I got married, I was 21. I can't tell you how many times that I got, "are you sure?; "you're just so young"; "so much to accomplish before marriage"...yada yada yada. Sometimes from people in the bridal stores whom I just met minutes earlier. As if there is an age that makes you ok to get married. I mean, when you know, you just know, right?
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June 7th 2007 |
Then in March of 2008 when I got pregnant with C, the next and most "obvious" was, "don't you want to travel before kids"; "life surely ends after children"; "but you're just sooo young". I was 22, in a stable marriage, in a great career with a lovely home over my head. My due date was right after my 23rd birthday. I sometimes felt like no matter what I did or choices that I made in my life, I'd always get those typical reponses as if my numerical age had something to do with my wifely skills or parenting skills. The decision my husband and I made to have a baby, was not a random one; it was a thought out one that we discussed.
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1 month before C was born |
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My 2 amazing pirates |
I thought I was past that, "wow aren't you" stage in my life. I am proud young mom. I would wear a shirt that said that, if they had one. I am proud that to all the people who doubted my husband and I, here we stand, stronger than ever 5.5 years later in a kick ass marriage.
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